The last few months have been a whirlwind, and at times, a little unbalanced. I’ve always felt that I had things under control, except for when I became a mom. Nothing ever prepares you for motherhood, and there’s nothing quite like it either. However, one thing’s for sure, you learn the mama bear role really quick! I can remember feeling some anxiety about a lot of things. Was I ready for my most important role, being a mom? When I went out on maternity leave, I wondered if I left my coworkers in good hands. And then when I headed back to work, I was overwhelmed with emotions that the working mom guilt brings. I struggled with finding my balance. We often find ourselves dividing each part of our lives into the multiple hats we wear. Somehow, we think drawing lines make us feel more in control. But what if we erased those lines?
“The balancing act of motherhood and a career, and being a wife, is something that I don’t think I’ll ever perfect, but I love the challenge of it”. – Kerri Walsh Jennings
Let’s fast-forward to the here and now. This past June, I accepted a position with a new company, one that has been around a while. I was leaving a small, family owned company, and taking the leap to a very large organization. My last day was hard. There were tears, laughter, and a sense of “wholeness”. I was grateful for my boss who saw potential in me, who was my mentor, and at times, who pushed me beyond my comfort zone. More importantly, I was thankful for the friendships. Because “chance made us colleagues, but the fun and laughter made us friends”.
Also, in June, I joined my fellow #SHRM bloggers in Vegas for what was my second SHRM Annual Conference! This second go around was just as great as my first experience. It was my first time on the blog squad, my mom and sister joined me for some Vegas fun, and the founder of Toms (Blake Mycoskie) signed my Toms shoes. It was a great experience. I still have to take some time to write an entire blog post on the amazing experience of #SHRM19.
As July rolled around, I started my new gig. The learning that comes with a new job is exciting and challenging. Taking it all in was a little intimidating, and now that I have completed my third month, I can honestly say that I feel a sense of accomplishment. The thought of starting somewhere new is a fear that holds you back. Then when you get to the other side of fear, you see the beauty in unlocking your full potential. For me, the adventure was worth the ride!
“You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort. You cannot choose both.” – Brené Brown
While these last few months have felt like a more than full plate, I am beginning to find a place of “wholeness” for me, my family, and my work. I’ve learned that work-life balance is more like work-life integration. When you take a blended approach to your life and work, you create a path to “wholeness”.
“Whatever it might be that fills the scope of your life—marriage, kids, work, relationships, a project you’re devoted to, or all of the above—I truly believe that when we show up for the things we care for deeply with our whole selves, that’s where we’ll find the kind of meaning and fulfillment that can withstand any sort of shifting sand—no balance required”. – Joanna Gaines
Here’s to celebrating “wholeness” and all that it has to offer!