When was the last time you were scared to try something new? I am a mom, and in the last few weeks of swim lessons, my little dude developed a fear for the deep end. It seemed as if the fear came out of nowhere. You see, we didn’t just start swim lessons yesterday for our little dude, he’s been swimming for a few years now. As a mom, I was on a mission to find the root cause of his fear. As parents, how do we help our little ones overcome their fears without letting them throw in the towel too soon?
“The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.” – Brené Brown
The doers, the go-getters, the eager beavers understand that taking risks is vital to achieving success. However, these risks are often met with fear. This is why we question our desire to chase our dreams. The thing is, facing fear is completely normal. The key is to not let it hold you back from going after what you want in life, what you want from your career.
So how can we overcome our fears? We can start by doing a few simple things:
Hit the reset button. Some say, “rewire your brain”, but I am no neuroscientist, so I won’t even try to articulate how one rewires their brain. It is, however, a reset to how we think. Find the words of encouragement that increase your self-confidence. Surround yourself with positive people – this will help battle the negative self talk that goes on in your mind. Take action to reset the way you think, or life will do it for you, either in a positive or negative way. It’s the one question that is often asked, “Is your glass half full or half empty?”
Breathe. We hear a lot about “deep breathing” techniques that help you relax and reduce anxiety. This is true, as it is a form of mediation. Quicker, shallower breathing is the first trigger that catapults all the other anxious feelings into action. So, by controlling our breathing, we control all the other anxiety symptoms as well. Give these breathing techniques a try from WebMD.
Step out of your comfort zone. To overcome fear, it’s important to recognize that living in our comfort zone is not the best place to be. Stepping out of your comfort zone and working on becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable is key to facing our fears. Is there something that you’ve always wanted to do that you’ve been putting off? When you form the habit of doing something that stretches you beyond your comfort zone, you’ll start to see that the barriers that once held you back, disappear.
This week, our little dude conquered his fear for the deep. With time and practice, he will become stronger. Because practice makes better, not perfect. So get out there and be brave. Be fearless.